Financial Management for Marriage/Dating
In my 23 years of life, I have noticed that life can be stressful and uncertain...
I have seen people:
1. date a guy/girl, promise to love forever, and then constantly worry about whether the guy/girl will stay faithful to the relationship and not fall in love with someone else and leave
2. date a guy/girl, promise to love forever, but then constantly worry whether I can really commit and love the guy/girl for a lifetime
3. broke up with a guy/girl, but hoping to re-unite with them, but then constantly worry whether the guy/girl will come back in the future and not fall in love with someone else
4. date someone, but then have to move away (maybe school/work, etc), and constantly worry about the relationship
5. love someone wholeheartedly, expect him/her to be their bf/gf/hushand/wife, but constantly worry about whether it would happen
6. having dated a person for long time, wanting to get married, but worrying whether he/she would really commit
7. ...
What's the problem?
I know v. little about Economics as I have never taken a course on Business, Economics, etc. in my university. But today, I have an idea about Financial Management and Marriage Preparation.
In order to be financially sound, one should increase assets and decrease liabilities. But unfortunately, people always do the opposite in dating/marriage. If you see the 4 examples above, people are having so many liabilities but little/no assets. No wonder they have so much stress and uncertainties. People put their lifes on hold and in constraints. I totally respect people and agree that they are having huge stress. But I also want to let them know "What's the problem?" and "What's the solution?". I think people should re-think their position in life. If you are a hockey forward, play as a forward and don't be the goalie. If you are building up your asset for marriage, don't overspend in liabilities. This way, people can avoid unnecessary stress/frustration/sorrow and live life to the best and in most harmony with GOD's plan.
I believe this concept is especially important for excelling in life. If you want to run 100m, it wouldn't be good to place hurdles on your track! Clear away the obstacles and make your life smooth and run for GOD with full capacity!